Lyudmila Petranovskaya is a well-known psychologist, winner of the Russian President's Prize in education, author of best-selling books 'What to do if... ' and 'What to do if...2'. Due to its practical significance, the books of Lyudmila Petranovskaya have become absolute hits among popular science literature on child rearing.This book is worth reading to all parents. And those who care about a slight misunderstanding, and those who are already desperate to find a common language with children. We have collected three books in one: 'If it is difficult with a child', 'Secret support: attachment in the life of a child' and 'Selfmama: life hacks for a working mother' - recommendations that can save you and your child from tons of psychological waste paper.In the first part, Lyudmila will tell you how to learn how to navigate difficult situations, resolve conflicts and get out of them with dignity. You will be able to understand how to help your child to grow and develop, without wasting energy fighting for your love. Step by step, with examples and analysis of situations, the author gives answers to the most frequently asked questions of parents.In the second part of the book, Lyudmila will talk about the role of parents on the path to adulthood: 'How do addiction and helplessness turn into maturity?'and 'How does our love and care, year after year, form a secret support in the child, on which, as on a rod, his personality is held?' You will be able to see what is really behind the children's 'whims', 'spoilt', 'aggression', 'harmful character'.In the third part, Lyudmila will give practical advice for modern mothers who strive to devote an equal amount of strength and energy to each of the sides of their personality. The simple tricks described in this book will help you avoid victims in the race for two birds with one stone: family and career. You will understand how you can do everything without resorting to the services of Mary Poppins, the help of flywheels of time and magic.