Мой возраст — мои правила: Психология здорового старения

Dostignuv zrelosti, my vsë chashche zadumyvaemsi͡a o neotvratimo priblizhai͡ushcheĭsi͡a starosti. Psikhologi, rabotai͡ushchie s ėtoĭ temoĭ, vidi͡at ochenʹ interesnyĭ srez mneniĭ: nekotorye li͡udi otnosi͡atsi͡a k mysli͡am o starenii so strakhom i neprii͡aznʹi͡u, a kto-to otrit͡saet svoi vozrastnye izmenenii͡a i delaet vsë, chtoby otsrochitʹ vosprii͡atie sebi͡a kak cheloveka v vozraste, ili nachinaet osuzhdai͡ushche vesti sebi͡a po otnoshenii͡u kak k molodym li͡udi͡am, tak i k ne prinimai͡ushchim starostʹ sverstnikam. Normalʹno li takoe povedenie? Kak perestatʹ boi͡atʹsi͡a starosti i stoit li voobshche ee boi͡atʹsi͡a?Deĭstvitelʹno, dumatʹ o starosti ne khochetsi͡a. Luchshe by otlozhitʹ ee podalʹshe i zabytʹ o neĭ. Kak budto tam, v budushchem, vmesto meni͡a vdrug okazhetsi͡a kakoĭ-to drugoĭ, neznakomyĭ chelovek. Ne i͡a sam, a nekiĭ bodryĭ ded ili dri͡akhlyĭ starichok s kli͡ukoĭ. My ne dumaem o starosti, i starostʹ zastaet nas vrasplokh.V knige izvestnogo klinicheskogo psikhologa Vladislava Chubarova rassmotreny samye populi͡arnye stereotipy, svi͡azannye so stareniem: utrata krasoty i zdorovʹi͡a - kak fizicheskogo, tak i mentalʹnogo, usilenie negativnykh kachestv kharaktera, poteri͡a samostoi͡atelʹnosti i t. d. Avtor rassmatrivaet starostʹ vsestoronne, podsvechivai͡a ee polozhitelʹnye storony, pomogai͡a prini͡atʹ to, chto proiskhodit s nami s techeniem vremeni, i pokazyvai͡a skvozʹ prizmu pozhilogo vozrasta vsi͡u sistemu otnosheniĭ cheloveka s okruzhai͡ushchim mirom i s samim soboĭ.Imenno takui͡u t͡selʹ i͡a stavli͡u pered nami: sdelatʹ nashu budushchui͡u starostʹ bolee poni͡atnoĭ, privychnoĭ i obzhitoĭ, poznakomitʹsi͡a s neĭ prezhde, chem nam pridetsi͡a v neĭ poselitʹsi͡a.Dli͡a tekh, kto uzhe osoznal, chto starenie neotvratimo, no eshche ne poni͡al, kak k ėtomu otnositʹsi͡a i chto s ėtim delatʹ.

As we reach adulthood, we increasingly think about the inevitable approach of old age. Psychologists working with this topic see a very interesting cross-section of opinions: some people treat thoughts about aging with fear and dislike, while others deny their age-related changes and do everything to delay the perception of themselves as an older person, or begin to behave disapprovingly towards both young people and adults. to peers who do not accept old age. Is this behavior normal? How to stop being afraid of old age and is it worth being afraid of it at all?Indeed, I don't want to think about old age. It would be better to put it away and forget about it. As if there, in the future, there would suddenly be some other, unknown person instead of me. Not me, but some cheerful grandfather or a decrepit old man with a stick. We don't think about old age, and old age takes us by surprise.The book by the famous clinical psychologist Vladislav Chubarov examines the most popular stereotypes associated with aging: loss of beauty and health, both physical and mental, increased negative character traits, loss of independence, etc. The author examines old age comprehensively, highlighting its positive aspects, helping to accept what happens to us over time, and showing through the prism of old age the whole system of human relations with the outside world and with oneself.This is exactly the goal I set for us: to make our future old age more understandable, familiar and habitable, to get to know it before we have to settle in it.For those who have already realized that aging is inevitable, but have not yet figured out how to treat it and what to do about it.