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Granit͡sy ne otnimai͡ut svobodu. Oni sozdai͡ut prostranstvo dli͡a toĭ zhizni, kotorui͡u vy deĭstvitelʹno khotite prozhitʹ.My privykli govoritʹ "da", dazhe kogda khochetsi͡a otkazatʹsi͡a, bratʹ na sebi͡a bolʹshe obi͡azannosteĭ i stavitʹ zhelanii͡a drugikh vyshe sobstvennykh. Nezametno chuzhie ozhidanii͡a zanimai͡ut v nasheĭ zhizni stolʹko mesta, chto na sebi͡a uzhe ne ostaetsi͡a ni vremeni, ni sil.Dzhozef Nguen, avtor mirovogo bestsellera "Vse otvety vnutri tebi͡a", predlagaet vzgli͡anutʹ na lichnye granit͡sy po-novomu. On pokazyvaet, chto oni nuzhny ne dli͡a togo, chtoby otgoroditʹsi͡a ot vlii͡anii͡a drugikh, a chtoby osvoboditʹ prostranstvo dli͡a svoikh t͡seleĭ i zhelaniĭ, sozdatʹ spokoĭstvie i radostʹ dli͡a sebi͡a. Chem chetche oboznacheny nashi granit͡sy, tem bolʹshe svobody poi͡avli͡aetsi͡a v zhizni.Menee chem za 100 stranit͡s vy uznaete kak:- govoritʹ "net", ne chuvstvui͡a viny;- sozdatʹ granit͡sy, kotorye predotvrati͡at vygoranie;- perestatʹ zavisetʹ ot chuzhogo mnenii͡a;- mirno rasskazatʹ o svoikh granit͡sakh tak, chtoby drugie ikh poni͡ali;- obresti pokoĭ nezavisimo ot togo, chto proiskhodit v vasheĭ zhizni;- samim sobli͡udatʹ svoi granit͡sy, chtoby perestatʹ vozvrashchatʹsi͡a k razrushitelʹnomu povedenii͡u;- opredelitʹ samye vazhnye granit͡sy v kazhdoĭ sfere vasheĭ zhizni.V ėtoĭ malenʹkoĭ, no nasyshchennoĭ praktikoĭ i znanii͡ami knige net slozhnoĭ teorii, vody i nravoucheniĭ. Tolʹko i͡asnye idei, zhiznennye primery, vdokhnovli͡ai͡ushchie t͡sitaty i uprazhnenii͡a, kotorye pomogut poni͡atʹ, gde prokhodi͡at vashi granit͡sy i kak donositʹ ikh do blizkikh, kolleg i rukovoditeleĭ. Oblozhka ukrashena dizaĭnerskoĭ bumagoĭ, chto pridaet zhelanie snova i snova bratʹ knigu v ruki.

Borders don't take away freedom. They create a space for the life that you really want to live.We are used to saying "yes" even when we want to refuse, take on more responsibilities and put the desires of others above our own. Imperceptibly, other people's expectations take up so much space in our lives that there is no time or energy left for ourselves.Joseph Nguyen, author of the world bestseller "All the Answers Inside You," suggests looking at personal boundaries in a new way. He shows that they are needed not to isolate themselves from the influence of others, but to free up space for their goals and desires, to create peace and joy for themselves. The more clearly our boundaries are defined, the more freedom there is in life.In less than 100 pages, you'll learn how:- say "no" without feeling guilty;- create boundaries that prevent burnout;- stop depending on other people's opinions; - peacefully talk about your boundaries so that others understand them;- find peace no matter what happens in your life;- observe your boundaries yourself in order to stop returning to destructive behavior; - identify the most important boundaries in each area of your life.There is no complicated theory, water, or moralizing in this small but full of practice and knowledge. Only clear ideas, life examples, inspiring quotes, and exercises that will help you understand where your boundaries lie and how to communicate them to your loved ones, colleagues, and supervisors. The cover is decorated with designer paper, which makes you want to pick up the book again and again.