Эффект Микеланджело. Искусство любить, которое превращает двух людей в шедевр

Ėta kniga ne o skazochnoĭ li͡ubvi, a o tom, kak sdelatʹ ee sozidatelʹnoĭ, glubokoĭ i ist͡seli͡ai͡ushcheĭ, chtoby ri͡adom s vami raskryvalasʹ luchshai͡a versii͡a i vas, i vashego partnera. Pod odnoĭ oblozhkoĭ issledovanii͡a detskikh travm, prakticheskie instrumenty dli͡a postroenii͡a otnosheniĭ i sovety dli͡a vsekh, kto khochet li͡ubitʹ iskrenne. "I͡A beru glybu mramora i otsekai͡u ot nee vse lishnee", - govoril Mikelandzhelo Buonarroti. Tak i v li͡ubvi: vash izbrannik - ne chistyĭ list, a uzhe gotovyĭ shedevr, skrytyĭ pod sloem strakhov, stereotipov i detskikh travm. No kak statʹ tem, kto ne uroduet, a osvobozhdaet luchshui͡u versii͡u li͡ubimogo cheloveka? I pochemu chashche vsego my vybiraem ne "skulʹptorov", a tekh, kto lishʹ mnozhit nashi treshchiny?Psikhologi Ana Marii͡a Sepe i Anna De Simone issledui͡ut i obʺi͡asni͡ai͡ut, kak rabotaet v zhizni fenomen "Ėffekta Mikelandzhelo", otkrytyĭ amerikanskim psikhologom Stivenom Drigotasom: kogda dva cheloveka stanovi͡atsi͡a zerkalami rosta, ikh vzgli͡ady, slova i podderzhka vysvobozhdai͡ut potent͡sial, o kotorom oni sami ne podozrevali. Cherez realʹnye istorii i uprazhnenii͡a vy uznaete:- Kak zametitʹ podsoznatelʹnye st͡senarii, razrushai͡ushchie otnoshenii͡a. - Pochemu slova "i͡a v tebi͡a veri͡u" tvori͡at chudesa. - Kak rabotai͡ut mekhanizmy vzaimnoĭ ėvoli͡ut͡sii v pare. Avtory dokazyvai͡ut, chto samye garmonichnye otnoshenii͡a nachinai͡utsi͡a ne s poiskov idealʹnogo partnera, a s otkrytii͡a ego v sebe i v tom, kto ri͡adom.

This book is not about fabulous love, but about how to make it creative, deep and healing, so that the best version of both you and your partner is revealed next to you. Under one cover, research on childhood trauma, practical tools for building relationships, and tips for anyone who wants to love sincerely. "I take a block of marble and cut off everything superfluous from it," Michelangelo Buonarroti said. It's the same in love: your chosen one is not a blank slate, but a ready—made masterpiece hidden under a layer of fears, stereotypes and childhood traumas. But how do you become someone who does not disfigure, but frees the best version of a loved one? And why do we most often choose not "sculptors", but those who only multiply our cracks?Psychologists Ana Maria Sepe and Anna De Simone explore and explain how the phenomenon of the "Michelangelo Effect", discovered by American psychologist Stephen Drigotas, works in life: when two people become mirrors of growth, their views, words and support release potential that they themselves did not know about. Through real stories and exercises, you will learn:- How to spot subconscious scenarios that destroy relationships. - Why the words "I believe in you" work wonders. - How the mechanisms of mutual evolution work in a couple. The authors prove that the most harmonious relationships do not begin with the search for the ideal partner, but with the discovery of him in himself and in those around him.