Эффект разбитого стекла. Как распознать и остановить эмоциональное насилие в отношениях

Ėmot͡sionalʹnoe nasilie - ėto ne obi͡azatelʹno kriki i bitai͡a posuda. Chashche ono proi͡avli͡aetsi͡a tikho: cherez kontrolʹ, obest͡senivanie, ignorirovanie ili manipuli͡at͡sii. Sini͡akov ne ostaetsi͡a, no dli͡a psikhiki ėti deĭstvii͡a tak zhe razrushitelʹny, kak fizicheskai͡a agressii͡a. Vazhno raspoznatʹ takoe povedenie vovremi͡a - v sebe ili v partnere - i poni͡atʹ, kak ego ostanovitʹ. Beverli Ėngl - psikhoterapevt s bolee chem 35-letnim opytom i spet͡sialist po rabote s zhertvami nasilii͡a. Ona napisala mnozhestvo knig o travme, styde i vosstanovlenii. Za ee plechami ne tolʹko nauchnye issledovanii͡a, no i desi͡atki tysi͡ach chasov terapii s realʹnymi li͡udʹmi. S temi, kto preodolel nasilie i izmenil sobstvennoe destruktivnoe povedenie. Kniga pomozhet vam:· raspoznatʹ skrytye formy nasilii͡a: gazlaĭting, passivnui͡u agressii͡u, obest͡senivanie, izoli͡at͡sii͡u, kontrolʹ;· razobratʹ psikhologicheskui͡u dinamiku abʹi͡uzivnykh otnosheniĭ - pochemu zhertva ostaetsi͡a, pochemu agressor ne meni͡aetsi͡a;· poni͡atʹ, kak stroi͡atsi͡a destruktivnye modeli povedenii͡a i kak ikh izmenitʹ;· razorvatʹ t͡sikl povtori͡ai͡ushchegosi͡a nasilii͡a, ispolʹzui͡a konkretnye terapevticheskie tekhniki;· vosstanovitʹ samoot͡senku i sposobnostʹ otstaivatʹ svoi granit͡sy;· sformirovatʹ novui͡u, bezopasnui͡u, osnovannui͡u na vzaimnom uvazhenii, modelʹ privi͡azannosti. Esli vy ustali ot sovetov v dukhe "prosto nachni t͡senitʹ sebi͡a" i ishchete realʹnye instrumenty dli͡a raboty nad otnoshenii͡ami - ėta kniga dli͡a vas. Ona pomozhet raspoznatʹ abʹi͡uz, vosstanovitʹ granit͡sy, vernutʹ doverie k sebe i vyĭti iz t͡sikla strakha i kontroli͡a.

Emotional abuse is not necessarily about shouting and broken dishes. More often it manifests itself quietly: through control, devaluation, disregard, or manipulation. Bruises do not remain, but for the psyche these actions are as destructive as physical aggression. It is important to recognize this behavior in time — in yourself or in your partner — and figure out how to stop it. Beverly Engle is a psychotherapist with over 35 years of experience and a specialist in working with victims of violence. She has written numerous books about trauma, shame, and recovery. She has done not only scientific research, but also tens of thousands of hours of therapy with real people. With those who have overcome violence and changed their own destructive behavior. The book will help you:· recognize hidden forms of violence: gaslighting, passive aggression, devaluation, isolation, control;· to analyze the psychological dynamics of abusive relationships — why the victim remains, why the aggressor does not change;· understand how destructive behaviors are built and how to change them;· Break the cycle of repetitive violence using specific therapeutic techniques;· restore self-esteem and the ability to defend their boundaries;· to form a new, secure, and mutually respectful attachment model. If you're tired of "just start appreciating yourself" advice and are looking for real tools to work on a relationship, this book is for you. It will help to recognize abuse, restore boundaries, regain self-confidence and get out of the cycle of fear and control.