Emotional abuse is not necessarily about shouting and broken dishes. More often it manifests itself quietly: through control, devaluation, disregard, or manipulation. Bruises do not remain, but for the psyche these actions are as destructive as physical aggression. It is important to recognize this behavior in time — in yourself or in your partner — and figure out how to stop it. Beverly Engle is a psychotherapist with over 35 years of experience and a specialist in working with victims of violence. She has written numerous books about trauma, shame, and recovery. She has done not only scientific research, but also tens of thousands of hours of therapy with real people. With those who have overcome violence and changed their own destructive behavior. The book will help you:· recognize hidden forms of violence: gaslighting, passive aggression, devaluation, isolation, control;· to analyze the psychological dynamics of abusive relationships — why the victim remains, why the aggressor does not change;· understand how destructive behaviors are built and how to change them;· Break the cycle of repetitive violence using specific therapeutic techniques;· restore self-esteem and the ability to defend their boundaries;· to form a new, secure, and mutually respectful attachment model. If you're tired of "just start appreciating yourself" advice and are looking for real tools to work on a relationship, this book is for you. It will help to recognize abuse, restore boundaries, regain self-confidence and get out of the cycle of fear and control.